Kris Perry, one of four plaintiffs in the Supreme Court case challenging California's Proposition 8, spoke to students at Dickinson College in Carlisle Monday night during a lecture.
"For me, I didn't realize how unhappy I was about this law until after the 2008 election," Perry said.
Perry has been with her partner, Sandy, for 13 years and they have four children. She said before entering the fight against Prop 8 in California, the couple discussed it with each of their boys, and all were on board.
In 2010, a federal judge struck down Prop 8, saying it was unconstitutional because of lack of due process and equal treatment under the law. This ruling was highly contested, and now Perry's family has found itself at the center of a nationwide debate.
Perry says their fight is less about gay marriage, and more about fundamental civil rights.
"I work hard every day. I'm raising my kids. I own a home. I pay income taxes. I pay attention to my parents. And I don't have this simple right, this adult right -- one that frankly, defines you as an adult," she said.
Answering questions from students and members of the public, Perry emphasized the result of this case will not re-define marriage, but simply allow equal access to something that already exists.
She says no matter what the outcome in June, they have already "won."
"I'm hopeful that the Supreme Court will be able to rule in our favor, but at the same time, I think America is starting to rule in our favor and I'm really happy about that."